enough of my men are texting me this evening that I feel OK ( Read more... )

he's still lonely and, a different flavor of Gender Queer ( Read more... )

I think another factor in why I haven't moved out after all these years is because I haven't really been interested in finding a new boyfriend to live with instead. I didn't spend much or even any time thinking, "I should dump T so I can find a better boyfriend." I think there was a period when T and I weren't getting along well during which I ( Read more... )

My current life is so different from my life in 2003, when I lived alone and had lived alone for several years, when I considered myself "single", and when I had recently been in a mental hospital due to some kind of breakdown/breakthrough anxiety/depression about six months after my father died ( Read more... )

I'm skimming this book, not sure whether it will give me anything new to think about, but it looks like a quality introduction to the concept of the "relationship escalator" and the variety of other ways in which people can relate to each other. She discusses the societal prejudice against people who don't want a so-called "serious" relationship ( Read more... )

I don't pay attention to Reddit every day, but when I do I'm struck by the sameness of it. The poly subreddit attracts a never-ending series of people who have the exact same problems and are looking for advice. They seem not to scroll down to see that nearly everybody else posting has the same problems they do ( Read more... )

OK, maybe not ALL the mistakes, but as I continue interacting with the polyamory subreddit I see people making the same relationship mistakes I made at various points in my life, and the other day so many past Bug mistakes suddenly piled up inside my brain like a logjam, like I've made so many relationship mistakes in my life! It was difficult to ( Read more... )

yeah, I'm there, slowly emerging from the mental and physical isolation of the worst pandemic in 100 years, which isn't over yet, especially in other countries, but I've got my two doses of Pfizer, so I'm a superhero,

in 2021 there are two ways to become a superhero in the US -- one way is you pretend COVID was never a problem -- the other way is ( Read more... )

rewatching some Buffy greatest hits, and this one had me crying so hard, wrenching sobs, as Xander tells Willow, repeatedly, as she tries but cannot kill him, that he loves her

and that's another gender nonconformance, how I cry

The way the term "privilege" is thrown around these days, I could understand if somebody is skeptical about whether Couples Privilege is real, or if so whether it is a bad thing.  Shouldn't non-monogamous couples be able to have rules and set boundaries about their particular instance of non-monogamy?

The problem with Couples Privilege isn't the ( Read more... )